Why Sex During Pregnancy Might Not Be Such a Good Idea: Exploring the Disadvantages

May 27, 2023
Priyanka Sonkushre – May 27, 2023
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Pregnancy is a wonderful time for couples as they get ready to welcome their little…

Pregnancy is a wonderful time for couples as they get ready to welcome their little ones into this world. This is also a time when most couples have one common concern. And that is whether or not to have an active sexual relationship while they’re pregnant. While there is no harm in having sex during pregnancy, there are some situations when it might not be a good idea. It is best to discuss it with your doctor or midwife, who will give you the right advice depending on your condition. Through this article, you will be able to understand the disadvantages of sex during pregnancy!

It primarily depends on whether you’re having a normal, low-risk pregnancy or if any concerns or pregnancy complications require you to abstain from sex. In this blog post, we are going to explore the reasons why some couples need to avoid sex during their pregnancy period. So, keep reading if you’re a soon-to-be parent and are curious to know more about it.

Why Sex During Pregnancy May Not Be a Good Idea

Physical Discomfort and Pain During Sex

While some women experience heightened sexual drive when pregnant, many do not find it comfortable or enjoyable. One of the common reasons for this is pain and physical discomfort. As your body is going through a lot of changes during the pregnancy period, you may experience vaginal dryness that makes sex painful.

Another reason is tenderness and increased sensitivity in the breasts, which can be downright painful for some women. Plus, if you’re anxious while having sex or not ready, it’s better to avoid it until you have resolved your inhibitions. Doing it when you’re not up for it can make the whole experience uncomfortable and painful.

physical discomfort and pain during sex

Increased Risk of Infection and Complications

When you’re pregnant, your body’s immune system has to do double the work as it protects you and your unborn baby. This increases your risk of developing certain infections. Hence, you must avoid sex during pregnancy if you’re unaware of your partner’s sexual history or if your partner has been recently diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease. Infections such as HIV or genital herpes are transmitted through unprotected sex and can adversely affect the mother and the baby. So, it is better to avoid all forms of sex to protect yourself and your baby from these infections.

Increased Risk of Infection and Complications

Furthermore, having sex during pregnancy can be risky for women with pregnancy complications. It may not be the best idea to have sex, and hence you’ll be advised by your doctor to refrain from it if you have the following pregnancy complications:

Placenta Previa

This is a condition when your placenta covers your cervical opening, either partially or wholly. Pregnant women with this condition may bleed throughout their pregnancy, so sex is not advisable.

Problems with the Cervix

Another reason to stay away from sex while pregnant is if your doctor has indicated that your cervix is softening and opening up too soon, increasing your chances of miscarriage and premature delivery.

Signs of Pre-term Labour

If you’re showing signs of pre-term labour, such as backache, contractions, and vaginal discharge, your doctor will probably advise you not to have sex because it may advance your labour.

Psychological Challenges

Psychological Challenges

gestation is the time when a woman (and her partner) go through several psychological changes as she prepares to adapt to the new challenges of being a parent. She may go through several emotional ups and downs during this period. Stress, anxiety, mood swings, and depression can also come along, making it harder for her to physically connect with her partner. If you ever go through this during your pregnancy and don’t feel like having sex, let your partner know how you feel. Talk it out. Share your fears and concerns. You can gradually sail through this period with your partner’s support. Dealing with psychological and emotional challenges takes time. So take all the time you need. You’ll know when you’re ready again.

Foetal Health Concerns

Besides the complications mentioned above, other foetal health concerns may arise, due to which you may want to and/or will be advised to avoid sex. These are:

Foetal Health Concerns
When you’re going to have multiple babies (twins, triplets, or more!)
In the case that you have a history of miscarriage
In the case that you have a history of miscarriage.
If you have ruptured membranes in your amniotic sac and are leaking fluids

Having sex while dealing with any of the above is generally not recommended because it may harm your growing baby. Your and your baby’s health is your doctor’s top priority. And therefore, he may suggest you refrain from sex for a short period or entirely during pregnancy

Communication and Relationship Issues

The best way to sustain a healthy relationship is to communicate clearly and openly. Couples who exchange and understand each other’s feelings are happier. Communication is even more critical during pregnancy, as it is a huge change for both partners. If you don’t talk openly and keep things to yourself, relationship issues may arise. And sex with no mutual regard and no emotional connection is not something you would want during this beautiful phase in your life.

Communication and Relationship Issues

When pregnant, many women have a decreased libido and hence say no to sex. If you’re experiencing the same thing, talking about this with your partner will help them understand why you have been avoiding sex lately. Men must also understand what their pregnant partners are going through and not consider it a sign of disinterest. It is the time when both partners need to support each other and not sway away to find new routes for sexual pleasure.

Alternative Ways to Maintain Intimacy During Pregnancy

The nine months of pregnancy are very special. It is the time when couples should love and cherish each other more. While we understand that sex is vital to keeping the spark alive in a relationship, it does and should take a backseat if you have challenges in your pregnancy that make sex a no-go.

Most people consider intimacy a synonym for sex. But that’s not what it is. Intimacy is all about feeling close and emotionally connected to your partner. It is about supporting each other through good and bad times. And physical intimacy is just a part of it. If your pregnancy issues require you to pause having sex, there are other ways to nurture your relationship and maintain intimacy.

Alternative Ways to Maintain Intimacy During Pregnancy
Kiss and cuddle your partner while you watch a favorite movie
Hold hands while you’re out for a relaxing walk.
Give each other massages to relieve pain and stress.
Plan a date night at a local restaurant.
Ask questions and share your feelings to connect at an emotional level.

Final Thoughts

Sex is crucial to staying connected and close to your partner. But pregnancy can bring situations when you and your partner may need to avoid having sex for the sake of your unborn baby. Listen to your doctor’s advice and do as they say. When in doubt, don’t hesitate to bring your concerns to your doctor’s attention. They will be happy to answer your doubts and tell you precisely what’s allowed and what’s not. 

When one is required to refrain from having sex for the full nine months of pregnancy, it can seem a little too much. But remember, you are in this together. Be patient and love each other more! This time shall pass, and you’ll soon have your little bundle of joy in your arms, and everything you have endured during the past nine months will all seem to be worth it


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